Cameron Diaz is 41, child-free, and perfectly happy—according to the star herself. Yet, like Katherine Hepburn before her, Diaz will probably have to spend the rest of her life explaining that no, really, she’s fine. She doesn’t regret not having kids.
I don’t know about you, but I’m already pretty tired of hearing the star defend herself on this matter. While it’s arguably good to hear a beautiful star openly explain that not all women crave motherhood, it’s unfortunate that people seem to feel entitled to an explanation. And these same people seem to think this quote from her recent Esquire interview is so noteworthy, that I just googled her name an 90% of the headlines were about it.
It’s so much more work to have children. To have lives besides your own that you are responsible for — I didn’t take that on. That did make things easier for me. A baby — that’s all day, every day for eighteen years. Not having a baby might really make things easier, but that doesn’t make it an easy decision. I like protecting people, but I was never drawn to being a mother. I have it much easier than any of them. That’s just what it is. Doesn’t mean life isn’t sometimes hard. I’m just what I am. I work on what I am. Right now, I think, things are good for me. I’ve done a lot. And I don’t care anymore.
Is her opinion really that shocking? She doesn’t want to be a mom, respects how hard it is, and you can now rest easy that it’s not because she’s infertile. It was her choice. But let’s not make this choice define her. It’s basically a non-story. Instead, let’s focus on the things that are stories. Like the fact that Cameron Diaz has a new movie coming out with Jason Segel called Sex Tape. Or the fact that last year she was named the highest paid actress over 40 in Hollywood. Or like, her skin. These are the things I want to read about. These are the things that matter.
Let’s not dwell on her womb.