Recently designers Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana expressed their maddening views on same-sex marriage, saying, “The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offspring, and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed.”
Predictably, Sir Elton John declared a boycott, Courtney Love promised to burn all her Dolce frocks, and Ricky Martin urged the openly gay designers to love themselves. Then came the clarifying remarks from the duo least likely to embrace human rights, and what a lovely explanation it was. Stefano Gabbana answered with this:
“We firmly believe in democracy and the fundamental principle of freedom of expression that upholds it,” Gabbana told The Independent. “We talked about our way of seeing reality, but it was never our intention to judge other people’s choices. We do believe in freedom and love.”
But that’s exactly what they did — pass judgment on other people’s “choices” and on the groundbreaking science that lets countless loving human beings grow their families. No matter how infuriating it is to hear the molto sexy designers say they don’t think it’s right, they’re entitled to firmly believe that’s the way to go FOR THEM. By imposing their own limited concept of how to do family correctly on everyone else, Dolce and Gabbana are condemning gay families, wiping out their experiences, and making any reasonable person start to despise black lace corsetry.
The designers were never going to express their “traditional” personal concept of a family and emerge without criticism, but they really went the extra hateful mile when they attacked children. If Domenico Dolce and Stefana Gabbana just went along with their smugly unmarried lives because they thought they knew better than everyone else, we couldn’t fault them. But deciding what everyone else shouldn’t do undermines their whole personal freedom claim. You can’t act like you truly believe in freedom and love if you effectively want to snuff out a grown-up’s freedom to commit to another grown-up and raise a child.
The awful truth is that freedom and love are exactly what these designers oppose.